Hello guys :),
Sorry that it's been a while since I've last posted but things have been a little hectic. The wedding plans are coming together, and as you can see from the title we have found a church. However there is a catch to this church finding, it is sort of a back up. Michael and I have a few more churches to look at, but the one that I really like at the moment is St. Jude's in Oakville.
The church that we have booked right now is St. Dominic's, which is located at Cawthra and Atwater. It's a beautiful church, and it's been a while for a bit, but it's not the one that I have my heart set on.
So I'll give you some details on St. Jude's. It was founded in 1839 by Rev. Tom Greene, but the church main structure was not constructed in Oakville until 1883. It is a beautiful church with stained glass windows, an amazing garden, and of course a bell tower. It's a beautiful church, and the congregation is wonderful.
Why are we deciding to go Anglican? Well here is a bit of the story. We don't mind being married in a Catholic church since I am Catholic, however the issue is that we are not allowed to write our own vows. Now if Michael and I don't find another church, or if are not accepted into St. Jude's then we'll be married at St. Dominics. It's just a let down because writing our own vows is very insturmental to us. We have an appointment with St. Jude's in a week, and then we shall see where we stand. This is such an important part, and we want to make sure that we get someone we like and that we're comfortable with.
So as of right now the Church situation is going well. We're also working on the DJ, photographer, and videographer. We have appointments set up pretty much every day for the next two weeks with meetings to see all these people. They're all so great, and I've found 3 photographers that I really love, they've a bit pricey, but to me it's realy worth it.
At the moment I have nothing to report in the way of a DJ. We've found several, and the good thing is that they will play a variety of music. Michael and I however have started on putting song lists together of music that we're interested in, and what would be good dinner music. I want full control over what music is played. I know that may sound bitchy but I would like to make sure that the proper atmosphere is set during dinner, and that the right music is being played.
Everything overall is going so well. Michael and I are so happy, and I'm enjoying planing everything. You should see the amount of questions that we have for eveything. We just want to make sure that we're asking the appropriate things, and we want to make sure that we're getting out money's worth.
I know this post wasn't that interesting, but I promise I shall have more the next time.
OHHHH I forgot something.
So here is the story, we went to St. Dominics for the meeting and we met with Father Noel. He was an older priest, but he seemed very nice. So we had to provide him with information, but instead of handing it to us to fill out we had to shout for him to hear us. Well that doesn't bother me becuase I understand, what bothered me is when we told him the wedding date. He wanted to know that date and we told him September 11th 2010, and he gave us a dirty look. He then proceeded to ask us if we were aware of what date that was?
So Michael being Michael was not happy and then said to the priest yes we do, but basically it's another day in the year. I mean my dear Jennifer is born on that day :) , and I know it's a sad day for a lot of people, but the truth is people die everyday.
Are we to stop living or celebrating on a day because people die? Is there any day left then in the year where people can get married? I understand it's a difficult day for most, but for me the difficult day comes a week later when my grandmother passed away.
So that was our little issue with the Priest, but overall he was okay.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
The First of the Church Interviews
Well Michael and I had our first interview with a priest today. We went to St. Catherine of Sienna located at Hurontario and The Queensway, and it was okay. The priest was nice enough, and there really won't be a problem with Michael and I getting married under the Roman Catholic church even though he is not Roman Catholic.
There are a few things that he has to do though. Michael is going to have to sign a petition basically stating that he will forever assist me in following my faith, and that he will also support with the baptism of our children and there roles in the church. Michael and I had talked about this before, and he doesn't have a problem with agreeing to these rules, but I don't think we're going to be picking this church.
I know this might sound a little shallow, but even though the priest was nice his english was horrible and that is very important to me. On the day of my wedding I want to be able to understand what the priest/minister is saying to us, because if we can't then it's all pretty useless in my eyes.
There are a few things that we will have to do, like get a letter from my parish (St. Peter's and Paul) allowing me to be married in a different Catholic church. A new baptism certificate from the church, and also a letter that Michael will have to sign. This is just the first stage and does not include the classes that will have to be taken later.
Also, we found that the priest was a little closed minded. I understand Catholocism is his chosen faith, but the way he was referring to inter faith marriages made it seem like they were impossible to have. I mentioned to him that my parents are of different religions (leaving out the part that they're divorced) and that they raised my brother and I in both until we chose. He made it very clear to us that if we chose to get married there that when we have kids they have no choice, and that we're chosing to raise them in the Catholic faith no if, ands or buts. To say the least I was not impressed with this mindset, and it in part turned Michael and myself off.
The other thing was that the Priest was late for our appointment. It wasn't like he had a good excuse, but he was in his office with the door locked, and was not answering his phone or the knocks on the door. We waited for about 10-15 minutes before he answered the door. We also were not he only ones outside his door, but three volunteers were there before us waiting. They were complaning about how this happens every week, and they don't understand why they don't listen to them to leave the door open. I was not impressed with this, and was disappointed with the lack of consideration the church was showing.
So although I think the church is beautiful, and it sits 700 people with ample parking at the moment it's a big no for this one. Perhaps things will change once we see a few more and compare, but until then this one is going to the back of the list.
* Sidenote: Did you know that there is this rule when interviewing for church you should not mention that you have booked the reception site first. This makes the priest upset like you are chosing your faith second.
Another reason that we were unhappy with this priest is that he kept referring to the people who ran the recption halls as evil since they do not give you your deposits back. We just thought it was a little.....I guess strange. Like I said previously he was a nice man, but I don't think that he was right for us.
Also, another thing that I've been thinking about more and more is how can someone who can never be married successfully council me in marriage. I'm not saying they're not educated, but with this minister everything was solved with prayer. Even though I still pray a relationship takes a lot of hard work, and even if a prayer might help (if you believe in that), it takes two people to work it out.
Okie doke until next time :)
There are a few things that he has to do though. Michael is going to have to sign a petition basically stating that he will forever assist me in following my faith, and that he will also support with the baptism of our children and there roles in the church. Michael and I had talked about this before, and he doesn't have a problem with agreeing to these rules, but I don't think we're going to be picking this church.
I know this might sound a little shallow, but even though the priest was nice his english was horrible and that is very important to me. On the day of my wedding I want to be able to understand what the priest/minister is saying to us, because if we can't then it's all pretty useless in my eyes.
There are a few things that we will have to do, like get a letter from my parish (St. Peter's and Paul) allowing me to be married in a different Catholic church. A new baptism certificate from the church, and also a letter that Michael will have to sign. This is just the first stage and does not include the classes that will have to be taken later.
Also, we found that the priest was a little closed minded. I understand Catholocism is his chosen faith, but the way he was referring to inter faith marriages made it seem like they were impossible to have. I mentioned to him that my parents are of different religions (leaving out the part that they're divorced) and that they raised my brother and I in both until we chose. He made it very clear to us that if we chose to get married there that when we have kids they have no choice, and that we're chosing to raise them in the Catholic faith no if, ands or buts. To say the least I was not impressed with this mindset, and it in part turned Michael and myself off.
The other thing was that the Priest was late for our appointment. It wasn't like he had a good excuse, but he was in his office with the door locked, and was not answering his phone or the knocks on the door. We waited for about 10-15 minutes before he answered the door. We also were not he only ones outside his door, but three volunteers were there before us waiting. They were complaning about how this happens every week, and they don't understand why they don't listen to them to leave the door open. I was not impressed with this, and was disappointed with the lack of consideration the church was showing.
So although I think the church is beautiful, and it sits 700 people with ample parking at the moment it's a big no for this one. Perhaps things will change once we see a few more and compare, but until then this one is going to the back of the list.
* Sidenote: Did you know that there is this rule when interviewing for church you should not mention that you have booked the reception site first. This makes the priest upset like you are chosing your faith second.
Another reason that we were unhappy with this priest is that he kept referring to the people who ran the recption halls as evil since they do not give you your deposits back. We just thought it was a little.....I guess strange. Like I said previously he was a nice man, but I don't think that he was right for us.
Also, another thing that I've been thinking about more and more is how can someone who can never be married successfully council me in marriage. I'm not saying they're not educated, but with this minister everything was solved with prayer. Even though I still pray a relationship takes a lot of hard work, and even if a prayer might help (if you believe in that), it takes two people to work it out.
Okie doke until next time :)
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